Be confident. Too many days are wasted comparing ourselves to others and wishing to be something we aren’t. Everybody has their own strengths and weaknesses, and it only when you accept everything you are – and aren't;t – that you will truly succeed.
How true is this for you?
Do you find yourself focusing on your weaknesses more than your strengths?
Do you want to instantly boost your self esteem and confidence right now?
Do this one thing: Accept who you truly are! The good, the bad, the perfect and not so perfect. Accept ALL of you!
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How often do you shove your weaknesses in a corner or under a rug so you don’t have to face them? Ignoring your weaknesses may be what you think you need to do in order to find peace but this will only be short lived and they will come back louder than before.
Tell your ego to go fly a kite and LOVE your weaknesses! Why? Well I hate to burst your bubble but no one is perfect. I want you to find comfort in knowing that. Because for once the pressure can be released and you can feel lighter and fly higher!
Often times we meet people and they are bursting with self confidence. They have this glow and attractiveness about them that people gravitate towards. It’s magical! What is their secret? Most likely they know they are not perfect. They are not consumed with negative feelings about themselves a because they have fully accepted their weaknesses. Instead they are concentrating on their strengths and sharing them with the world! This allows people to achieve greater peace and confidence in their life.
Accept failure as a part of life and as a learning experience. When you expect
perfection you are setting yourself up for failure. It’s easy to accommodate your
weaknesses both at home and at work if you concentrate on the positive aspects
of your life.
Action Items:
You need to be completely honest with yourself and show yourself some love. Accepting yourself starts with you and only you. You need to love yourself UNCONDITIONALLY. Flaws included.
Make a list of all the things you are good at in the environments that you feel least confident in. Maybe it’s at work, school, at home, around others… Start to really open up with yourself and write down as many strengths you can come up with. They can be small or big but make sure you give yourself credit where credit is due!
Next write down your weaknesses in these same environments. Again, these can be as small or big. Try to stay in a positive mindset when you do this because what I want you to feel is acceptance!
So now that you have your list I want you to really meditate on both your strengths and weaknesses. I want you to start realizing that these qualities are what makes you YOU! But look a little deeper. A little harder. Look with an open heart and mind. Use your weaknesses and strengths!
If there is an area in your life that is draining your self confidence I recommend that you take some action and shift your energy to something that will boost your confidence.
Here’s a little story: I used to work at a Credit Union as a teller. And I SUCKED at it. I LOVED working with my employees, I LOVED interacting with the members that I helped but I quickly found out that numbers DO NOT mesh well with me. Accurate attention to numbers is not a strength I have. Every day I was anxious about going to work, I was anxious at work and I was anxious when I left work. I knew it was not a great fit for me. I had to come to terms that I was not succeeding at my job and I resigned. And I was happier because I was honoring my strengths and weaknesses. I accepted that I was not good at that position and instead of beating myself up over it I built my confidence up by removing myself from that environment and shifting it towards a new career path.
So now that you have your strengths and weaknesses down on paper you can start to do some work with them. Visually seeing your weaknesses can help you understand where you need help ONLY if you are willing to work on it. You can only start to turn your weaknesses into a strength if you first accept them with an open mind and an open heart.
If you want to help build your confidence in a particular area then ask for help. This can be in the form of more education, a trusted person, self help/study, etc. The tools are endless!
But you may have weaknesses that you are truly willing to accept as they are – meaning, you have no desire to work on them. Now this gives you to power to start building your confidence and working on your strengths!
True acceptance starts and ends with only one person: YOU!
Love and gratitude - Tasha
